Dear Wife on the 28 Day Challenge

Dear wife,

I congratulate you on the acceptance to do this challenge to honour your husband. It is an act of great humility for you to have chosen to honour first even though deep down, you ask yourself “but why can’t he also put effort to love me? Why should I be the first one to make a move? I’m I not putting in more than him?”

Yes, these thoughts are very normal and so common especially when it feels as if one person bears the weight of carrying the relationship. It can feel emotionally draining. You can feel taken for granted. It can feel like you are living a “grey existence” with nothing much to look forward beyond the day to day routines that are part and parcel of your family life.

BUT it doesn’t have to be this way...that’s why I congratulate you yet again on this journey that you have embarked on – you have begun something. Something is beginning to shift in your relationship with your husband (even if at the moment it doesn’t feel or look like it).

I encourage you to keep doing those tasks, even when you do not feel like it or do not see the essence of why you need to do them.

They are a sure way to leading your husband to your heart, to loving you in the way you desire and yearn for…which he too unknowingly does not fully understand. Your first steps towards honoring him will create a yearning for him to want to fulfill your own deepest need  - “to be loved”- because you are fulfilling his deepest need: “to be respected”.

Forgive him. The relationship that lies ahead for the two of you when you have freed him (& yourself from the bitterness) is far, far greater, exciting & fulfilling than what you can ever imagine. This will be a stark contrast to constantly recalling and replaying his faults in your mind…which are many (because he is human & so are you with your own faults).

To the wife who is enjoying a good marriage, I urge you to continue too to help make it an even better marriage.

I'm cheering you on and praying for you.

Well done so far & Keep it up!🎉

My warmest regards,

Liz